AITAH for not inviting my sister to my wedding because she didn’t invite me to hers?

A Reddit user shared a story about a wedding dispute with her sister. Seven years ago, the sister excluded her from her wedding due to an 18+ age rule, despite her being just a week shy of turning 18.

Now, as the Redditor plans her own wedding, she decides to leave her sister off the guest list. Is this a justified response or a petty act of revenge? Read the full story below to find out:

‘ AITAH for not inviting my sister to my wedding because she didn’t invite me to hers?’

I’m 24f and I’m getting married in a few weeks. 7 years ago my sister got married and I was so excited. I talked to het about the wedding, what dress I’ll wear and if I could help her plan it and she was always dismissive and a few weeks before the wedding she told me that it would be 18+.

She said she wanted to exclude annoying kids and made this rule and she can’t make exceptions and all this crap. She also said I was too young for the adult atmosphere and whatever. My 18th birthday was a week after the wedding.

I was devastated and I begged my sister to let me come. I really wanted to be there and support her. My step mom refused to go to the wedding as a result of that and my dad almost divorced her over that, among other things.

I eventually accepted it and I told my sister that I would not invite her to my wedding. She scoffed and laughed and said I was being inmature and I’ll forget about it.

My fiance’s dad owns a massive yacht company. They rent out yachts, make repairs and sell equipment. The wedding party will take place on a yacht which can accommodate 200 guests. She asked me about the wedding and I flat out told her she wasn’t invited.

She said I was being petty and how hurtful I was and that her reasons were justified and it’s in the past. To be honest I feel she just wants to be on the yacht and not so much support me. I told her that she should’ve thought about that back then and now she understands how I feel and that she’s only jealous that my wedding will be better than hers.

My dad called me and said I need to stop being petty and invite her and other family agree. I told them no and after some arguing they respected it. My sister is being a b**ch about it on Facebook.

Edit: a friend suggested I should make my sister delete all the Facebook posts and write an apology letter saying why it was wrong to exclude me from the wedding. I think that’s cringe but what do you all think.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

grimp- −  Your wedding, your rules. Maybe your sister can rent a dingy and get people to to toss her canapés. NTA.

[Reddit User] −  Your stepmother is a gem for supporting you. Your father is garbage. Now she can be excluded and know how it feels.

Ok-Deer8144 −  NTA. If you were like 12-13 when you weren’t invited to her wedding it’s a different story. But you were a week from being 18. She definitely had ill intentions back then for the disinvite

seidinove −  NTA. I can’t get past the fact that your own sister enforced an adults-only rule on you a week before your 18th birthday. And I’m tired of hearing “it’s in the past” as a reason for dismissing a slight.

Somebody: Hey seidinove, you murdered my family ten years ago.
Me: Yeah, but it’s in the past, so you should forgive me.

Top-Bit85 −  Your sister was the petty one, your birthday was a week after the wedding, petty AF. Now your wedding is so cool and glamorous she wants in, NOPE! I’d also remind everyone, on her posts, that you were excluded for a silly reason. But I’m petty too!

DJ4116 −  NTA. It’s the couple getting married that decides who to invite to *their* wedding. She had her wedding with set rules that didn’t include you, you have your wedding and didn’t include her. Your parents are making it into such a big deal….when it’s not.

burntllamatoes −  NTA what comes around goes around. She’s getting what she deserves. Plus you already told her years ago she wasn’t invited why is it a big deal now? Lmfao

PeanutGallery10 −  NTA. Especially since your relationship deteriorated after she excluded you from her wedding. It might seem petty to other people but the hurt from things in the past don’t go away easily.

You were a week short of her age limit and she excluded because you were too young for the adult atmosphere? So a week later you’d have been mature enough to be at the wedding?

That’s a ridiculous piece of logic. Seeing her at your wedding is bound to bring up the feelings of r**ection and hurt. I wouldn’t invite her either.

butterfly-garden −  NTA, but I can’t help wondering why your parents had no problem with your sister excluding you from her wedding, but you have to invite her to YOURS. Golden Child 

DWColumbus −  NTA. I love that your stepmom stood up for you back when your sister excluded you.

Do you think the Redditor’s decision to exclude her sister was fair payback for being left out years ago, or was it unnecessarily harsh? How would you handle unresolved family tensions like this? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below!